My mind is too busy to meditate….
It’s a good idea to free yourself from the self-defeating thought, that if thoughts arise, you’re not good at meditating.
We’re wired to generate thoughts. We’re also wired to relax into meditative states, to turn our attention inwards.
One of the first things Yoga Teacher trainees learn, from Patanjali’s Yoga Sutra, is: Yoga stills the thought waves of the mind.
As yoga practitioners, we discover the connection between the breath and our “state” – how calming the breath, calms the vrittis, the whirling thoughts, and creates a more relaxed body/mind.
However, as we embrace a meditation practice, it’s helpful to remember that the essence of life is pulsation, movement, and our thoughts are pulsations of consciousness. It’s natural for thoughts to arise and subside.
There are many ways to work with thoughts. One effective way is to cultivate some detachment and witness them – label them “thoughts” and then take your attention back to the breath or whatever you’re using as a focal point: a mantra or a center in the body (the heart, for example).
As we cultivate detachment from thinking, we can take our attention from the content of thoughts to the nature of thoughts, seeing them as energy, as impermanent arisings that are not necessarily true but that have the power to impact our reality if we believe them.
With an understanding of what thoughts are made of, we can work with thoughts – and mantra – to relax into meditation. Eventually we become more aware of what’s beyond thoughts – awareness.
It’s important not to judge yourself during or after meditating. Give yourself credit for having followed through on your intention to sit.
Also know that cultivating dispassion is not the only way to work with thoughts. The Sufis, for example, recommend “drowning your thoughts in love.”
What works for you – the ideal meditation path/approach – depends on your temperament, your belief system, where you are in your practice and other factors.
I’m not “spiritual.”
Fortunately you don’t have to be “spiritual” to reap the documented benefits of a daily meditation or yoga practice.
For many people, words like “spiritual” and “God” have a negative charge. Regardless of the identities we ascribe to ourselves – “spiritual” or “not spiritual” – it’s best to approach meditation and yoga as practices, without the labels.
If you have a strong aversion to spirituality, I recommend reading Waking Up by Sam Harris.
I don’t have time to practice.
We only need to practice for a little while every day before we begin to notice shifts. We might notice that our day goes better when we sit to meditate, that we’re less reactive, more present, that we feel content even when life is challenging, or we’re more acutely aware of beauty.
When we begin to experience the benefits of practice – a deeper sense of well-being, more steadiness, more peace and contentment – we’re then motivated to practice more.
When we embrace a regular meditation practice, our meditation energy unfolds in a way that is unique and beneficial to us.
All of the research, articles and blogs on creating a new habit say the same thing: practice every day – even for just a few minutes – so that it becomes a natural, easeful part of your daily routine.
As Doctor Timothy McCall says:
I get bored.
Ask: Who knows I’m bored?
Widen your awareness and shift your attention away from the thoughts to the more spacious awareness that knows you’re bored.
I’m too tired to practice.
It’s a good strategy to listen to a (short) guided meditation when you’re tired, or lay in savasana (corpse pose) and plug into a guided deep relaxation, called “yoga nidra” (yogic sleep) that takes you into deeper layers of your being, the subtle and causal bodies.
You may notice how profoundly varied your states of mind are; how they are impacted by fatigue; the time and cycles of the day; what you have read or eaten; pleasant and unpleasant interactions with others and the world; health issues and many other things.
When doing the body scan, you may find you can just be present to your thoughts and the sensations in your body. Then you may start to take your attention from your body and your thoughts, to awareness.
These kinds of practices are likely what you need when you’re tired; they enable you to reinforce your meditation habit in a way that is effortless.
I’m traveling early in the morning which is when I usually meditate.
When you have to get up extra early to travel, it works to bring ear plugs and do your daily mediation after you’re settled in to your seat, as your plane is taking off or when your train is pulling out of the station. You might also opt for a guided audio meditation on travel days.
What’s most important when you’re getting started?
What’s important when you’re getting started is to practice every day. It can be a short practice. It can be guided. It doesn’t have to be seated meditation; it can be a body scan.
It helps to practice at the same time every day so it becomes part of your daily routine.
It’s important to be gentle with yourself, flexible, and realistic (rather than self-critical) about how much time you can spare on certain days.
Finally, having an intention to meditate, understanding why you are meditating can help you cut through these and other obstacles that may arise.
For me, the simple understanding that meditating is the most important thing I do every day powers my practice.
*Ganesh, shown in the photo, is the beloved Hindu deity who is worshipped as the remover of obstacles. When we practice, we remove the obstacles in our awareness – the limiting beliefs or egoic tendencies – that prevent or hinder us from knowing ourselves at being, consciousness and bliss, and that hinder our expansion.